The Triangle

By: Wendy Sanders

Wednesday, May 21, 2025

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

I always knew I wanted to get married and have kids. But here's what I wasn’t expecting: Walking into high school as a freshman, then meeting, dating, and eventually marrying my husband 8 years later. My husband and I both chuckle when we run into someone from high school and they timidly ask if we know how the other one of us is doing. We chuckle because we know they've determined it isn't likely we're still together. When I tell them we've been happily married for 29+ years, most of them are astonished! Everything we've gone through wasn't easy, and we've experienced personal trials and been through trials as a couple. But as Christ followers, we know Satan wants to kill, steal, and destroy what God intended, and that includes our marriages. But there is one thing I can say about every single one of those difficulties, "but God."

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Maybe you've seen the illustration where marriage is represented as a triangle. You're on one point of the triangle, your spouse is on the other, and God is at the top. This is how The Lord designed marriage. Two people that share a common goal of drawing near to God. Drawing close to God will draw us closer to our spouse and transform our marriage. The closer we get to God, the more intimate our triangle becomes!

Your marriage might be awesome, it might be filled with challenges, or maybe you're single. One thing is shared by all three of those situations, we must always keep our focus on God. We'll always have trouble in this world, but our spouses, family, and friends aren’t the solution. They love us, and they may even try to help us... but the best help for overcoming life's challenges only comes from God.

Look toward the top of that imaginary triangle and fix your gaze on God. If your marriage needs a tune-up, don't try to fix it yourself! Trust God and ask Him for help, then allow Him to work things out on the other side of that triangle.