To Be, or Not To Be...

By: John Carrigan

Thursday, May 22, 2025

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. Proverbs 16:25 (ESV)

The famous line "To be or not to be" is from a play Shakespeare wrote called Hamlet. Those words are part of a long speech Hamlet makes as he reflects on questions about life and death. Hamlet is categorized as an epic tragedy because all the main characters die. For us, our body will eventually pass away, but our spirit will live somewhere forever. On earth, what we do and say matters, and they may have a lasting eternal impact.

The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Proverbs 18:21 (NLT).

This proverb reminds us that our words can build people up or tear them down. But if we claim to be a Christ follower, there's really only one option... our speech must encourage others, and the words we use must reflect the love of Christ. As for me, I don’t say as much dumb stuff as I used to, but if I'm not careful, I can still say things that sound mean. In the past, I've justified my unkind words by using the excuse; "I'm just speaking the truth in love." But I was only using that biblical principle to say what I was feeling... Now, when The Holy Spirit reminds me to be careful with my words, I'm a much better listener. One thing He is still challenging me to get better at is quickly admitting when I’m wrong.

"...everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken." Matthew 12:36

Be careful, the challenges of life can cause us to get emotional or upset. When that happens, it's best to pause before we speak... before we respond angrily and use words we'll later regret! Jesus reminded us we'll be accountable for our words, so they must always align with biblical principles and glorify God. But our words just reflect what's deep inside our hearts. If you're struggling to control your tongue, ask The Holy Spirit to help you. Then, examine yourself and ask God if it's an issue of the heart.

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Ephesians 4:29 (NLT)

What we say matters... instead of being critical, decide "to be" an encourager!